In 2013 Will You Be A Victim or Victor?

Today we are just a day away from the new year. 2012 did not bring 'the apocalypse'. It did however bring about a united nation with the amazing Olympic games, a joyous and spectacular event I am sure most of you will agree. It has been a positively packed year, with some great highlights I appeared in Eastenders several times. Yep little old me on the BBC. I had breakfast with Ian King Editor of The Business Times with a host of others invited to join him at News International HQ.

Life Is a Rollercoaster

I met some wonderful people this year who have positively changed my life forever. Brad Burton, Sanjay Shah, Daniel Wagner, Nigel Baker, Mark Northall to name but a few. Its been a tough year personally having to move out of my comfort zone and work harder than ever before networking and marketing my brand. This year saw my hubby and I celebrate 25 years of roller-coaster living. well that's what marriage is, isn't it? Up and down round and round til you feel a little sick, then madly you want to do it all over again. It is like the most extreme ride you will ever go on, touching every emotion within you. If you're like me you are determined to keep your nerve and overcome the negative and enjoy the positive experience, exhilaration and deep sense of achievement. No one said life was easy but the results of putting in the effort are worth it.

Dysfunctional Vs Drama

Before I sign off for 2013 let me share with you one last thought provoking moment. Have you ever noticed how some people always seem to be surrounded and involved in huge drama? be it illness, arguments, complaints about others, feeling wronged and having to get others on their side creating discord and disharmony. How it is always the same people making such a big deal?  The funny thing about this is, these same people would laugh at you, be offended and deny it til they are blue in the face, feeling victimised,  if you dare to point this out to them, leading to more drama. This always make me smile thinking about it, although it shouldn't as it has changed my life in ways I would not have wished for but have to accept. For me personally having dealt with life and death decisions frequently in my line of work and having been faced with my own sons suicide attempt, most of what they consider drama to me is merely dysfunctional attention seeking.

Beauty and The Beast

I witnessed a situation today that left me thinking many of us are so unconsciously unaware of how our behaviour is impacting on other peoples lives and what effect it is having on the survival of a family unit. As individuals we seek approval, control and security and in doing so this can leave us wide open to feeling negative emotions such as anger, frustration and fear etc which then leads to a display of behaviour that does not reflect our beauty more the beast. I did not get involved in this situation merely took it as a learning curve, to be very aware of my own behaviour, although inside me a storm was raging, as it had triggered much negative emotion.

Decisions, Decisions

I made a decision that as it was non of my business I would accept the situation and let it go. It took several hours to release the negative emotions it had triggered inside me, but once this shift in mindset had occurred I felt peaceful inside again. I accept I cannot make people change their behaviour I can only support them when they are ready to make the changes themselves. I also have to accept they may never be ready and love them anyway - from a distance.  So with this is mind in 2013 I am not going to focus of what has gone and potentially forever lost. I choose to focus on NOW being fully present in the moment creating positive memories and being consciously aware of how my behaviour may be impacting on others.

Cause & Effect

Some people will always be stuck in 'effect' and act the victim of their circumstances and behaviour as they are unconsciously unaware. Others will become conscious of their behaviour and its cause and move forward, making positive changes, taking on the roll of a victor. In reading this blog post and having possibly provoked some thought within you. Let me ask you are you a victim or a victor? What changes will you be making in 2013?

May your path shine brightly as you pursue your destiny.

Happiest of New years to you all.

Here's to an incredible 2013.

Much Love

Debs x

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The Most Powerful New Year's Resolution Is .

The one you don't make, that's my theory and it has stood me in good stead since I swore I would never make another one on New Years Eve 2007. Why put yourself through the struggle, frustration and heartache of potential failure. Did you 88% of New Year's resolutions fail. That's a huge number. Even bigger is the statistic that 99% of diets fail to keep weight off over the long run. With 94 million people in the US currently trying to lose weight, and millions in the UK too, it looks as though the overwhelming majority of them are going to be trying to do the exact same thing this time next year.

Acceptance Is The Key To Your Success

Many studies have shown that only about 12% of New Years Resolutions are actually achieved. Statistics show that most diets fail over time, what makes for a successful New Years Resolution? and what is a realistic alternative to dieting and New Years resolutions? well instead of yet another diet plan or setting a goal of losing weight, why not focus on getting to know yourself better?! Go with me on this what if your New Years Resolution was to understand and accept yourself?

Emotional Eating

If you are overweight, you are probably an emotional eater. FACT. Sorry there I am not going to beat about the bush, we are all friends here and it's time to stop making excuses and face the truth. Being overweight means you are storing more fat than you need, and the only way to do that is to eat more than you need, end of story. There may be a few added hormonal problems but they can easily be remedied if you really want them to. I haven't met a person that cut down their calories and exercised that didn't lose weight. If you are thinking well you haven't met me Debbie. You would be right to think that but wrong to assume you are destined to be fat or overeat forever. Once you have met me and attended my sessions you WILL lose weight if that is your FULL intention and you are not lying to yourself or me.  When you eat more than you need you are not taking good care of your body, but you know that already. You certainly don't intend to be overweight and you certainly don't intentionally want to take poor care of your body, I know that but your good intentions are not strong enough to carry the day for you. Your habit of using food for emotional relief or reward wins the day because you are not yet confident that you can handle your strong emotions and life stresses on your own. 

Time For ACTION

when you are emotionally eating you have not yet achieved full ownership of your adult mind and body because you can't seem to carry out your good intentions to eat healthy, exercise more and lose weight. This means that there is a vital piece of personal development work necessary to do, in order to break the emotional eating habit. Breaking the emotional eating habit is the only way to lose weight and keep it off, but to do that you have to be willing to deal with yourself honestly, which includes feeling your feelings and understanding your emotions and facing your problems.

Are You Ready?

If you are ready to be successful at achieving your weight loss goals, then it's time to make some personal changes and upgrade your self-esteem. My Discover Yourself webinar in January 2013 will help you address the real issues that trigger your emotional need to eat in a step-by-step way so you can prove to yourself that you can make, keep and benefit from whatever intentions you set for yourself. And given that people are more likely to be successful when they make their goals public, and get support from others, then why not use the Debbie Huxton's Mind Diet Community to help you get started on a new path of self love?

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What A Load of B.......

B for Beginnings ... what did you think I meant?! Well the world is meant to end today if you listen to the naysayers and media. I know as I write this we still have 11 hours ish. The reality is with the end of the Mayan Calendar we are entering a new era. A new beginning which is yours for the taking. To do whatever you want to.  

What's Stopping you? 

You know that thing that holds you back, you know 'that thing' that keeps you awake at night, and sits on your shoulder when you're driving. You know 'that thing' that STOPS you making decisions, keeps you hesitating and sometimes thinking you're not worthy! 'That thing' that is affecting your thinking and ultimately the results you are having right now. Isn't it TIME to resolve the thing behind the thing that holds you back?!

What are you waiting for?

To see if the world will actually end?! Or is that just another excuse to put off making that decision, making the effort, doing what you know you should. why are you wasting precious time. Are you waiting for Christmas to be over, perhaps New Year to ring in and the list of excuses goes on. No matter how you try and wrap it up, just like a cheap tacky nasty looking 99p store gift using expensive paper and fancy bows doesn't change the fact that inside all of the fancy wrapping lurks a gift that is poorly quality gift. So wrapping your excuses in whatever way you choose doesn't change the fact these are all just excuses. 

NOW is the time for change

I'm not asking you the questions to make you feel bad and hassle you, more to prompt and push you to hurry up and get started. I genuinely know if you make a decision to get over whatever it is that is holding you back that a NEW beginning will bring you incredible opportunities.  What, exactly, are you insisting will happen before you start spreading your wisdom and sharing your skills with the world.

Take some time right NOW 

Just 5 mins right NOW no excuses grab a pen and paper and write it down. Write down what it is that has to happen before you can make a decisions and to quote one of my lovely clients Brad Burton books offensively titled 'Get Off Your Arse' the highest rated business book on Amazon. Having clarity about what you're waiting for makes it far more likely that you will see that NOW is the time.

Life is precious don't waste it.

If you are looking for inspiration in 2013 then I encourage you to take up this invitation and book onto the event it will clear the cobwebs and get you focused for a bright prosperous New Year ahead. Use my Christmas gift code DH97 for a special discount of £50 off the advertised price.

Wishing you a warm winter solstice today and a wonderful Christmas time.

May 2013 bring you ALL you choose for yourselves

With love

Debs x

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'STUFF' ... this Christmas

This week has been a reflective one for me as I wind down for a well deserved Christmas break. Many of you may be caught up in the chaos of Christmas shopping, what to buy who, where to buy it from and when to buy it. Budgets being blown, credit cards maxed out and bank accounts overdrawn. Why do we do it?! 7 years ago that was all bought to ahead for me as my son attempted suicide. Is life really all about the 'STUFF'?

Life could have been so different if we hadn't heeded this wake up call.

I am relieved to say my son is now 24, very much alive, well and sharing a life full of love. We get so caught up in trying to prove we are good parents, friends, partners and family member. We lose sight of what life is really all about. We think the 'STUFF' proves our worth and we get engrossed in working hard to provide a lifestyle that is really not necessary. I speak from experience and sometimes life throws us an opportunity to STOP and take stock of where we are and realign our living with our purpose. Working hard is not necessarily working smart and ask yourself are your family paying the price?

Are you prepared to make some changes to your thinking and how you view life?

If the answer is not yet, then ask yourself at what cost? Will our children remember the 'STUFF' and how hard you worked for it, missing days out, and precious time with them to do an extra shift to provide money to buy more 'STUFF'. Or will they remember the time you spent with them, having fun, watching your favourite films, making your favourite foods, making them feel special and like they are the only one that matters.

Keeping it simple both possible and rewarding.

Christmas for my husband, children and I is now about being together in an environment free of judgement, full of unconditional love, with all our favourite films, lots of home-made food, corny Christmas jokes, lots of laughter and long walks together. Our son gave us the most precious gift of all 7 years ago, he saved our family life.

My Christmas message to you all

Don't wait for a wake up call to change how you live your life, STOP right now take a look around you and ask yourself is all this 'STUFF and STRESS' worth it? Could a simpler life bring you more happiness? Well I can say without a doubt 'YES' it can.

If you are struggling with your thinking and are ready to make some changes, then get in touch I have some incredible coaching sessions on offer in January 2013, that WILL change your life. 

Burnout Kills Dreams Dead Take Action NOW

It's got a little bit chilly here in Birmingham at the moment. 

I have the heating on FULL. I have had a busy week and find myself physically tired today but mentally very happy. So I have given myself permission to down tools for the day as my brain feels like it is processing slower. Before I turn off my laptop I just wanted to share with you. This week I have travelled all over the country, Monday I was in London Tuesday in Warwick and Wednesday I was in Bristol and talked about my passion ... 'YOU' and how to get the best out of yourself and all you do and the importance of putting YOU first. I talked about a big issue many people experience in their life, Burnout.

Burnout is defined as :- 

A state of emotional, mental, and physical exhaustion caused by excessive and prolonged stress. It occurs when you feel overwhelmed and unable to meet life's constant demands. As the stress continues, you begin to lose the interest or motivation that led you to take on a certain role in the first place.

Burnout eventually reduces your productivity and saps your energy.

This leaves you feeling increasingly helpless, hopeless, cynical, and resentful. Eventually, you may feel like you have nothing more to give, and feel like almost giving up. Most of us have days when we feel bored, overloaded, or unappreciated; when the dozen balls we keep in the air aren't noticed, let alone rewarded; when dragging ourselves out of bed requires the determination of Hercules. If you feel like this most of the time, however, you may be flirting with burnout.

Take action NOW before it manifests into illness and really affects your health, your wealth and your relationships.

If you feel overtired and overworked, and don't seem able to deal with you may need the help of a professional, hiring a coach might be in order but only one who has experience in this field, find one who understands and see how they might help you prioritise, organise your time better, and strike a balance between all that is important to you. It is an investment in yourself, your whole life and YOU are what matters most. Without you nothing else can happen. If you’re actually starting to develop physical symptoms, suffer from mouth ulcers, migraines, sleeplessness, headaches or heart palpitations, it’s high time to take action. Stress and burn-out might be sniggered at in your circle of influence as an excuse for laziness or a weak mind. Let me tell you right now that is utter RUBBISH. It should be taken seriously. Prolonged periods of stress will wear your body and your mind out to the point where you will become ill. With stress-related and burnt out patients, illness is the bodies’ desperate attempt to force them into relaxation. Why let it get so far, when a strategically timed hot bath, gossip session with the girls, beer with the boys and trip to the movies/beach/spa/shopping of your choice can take the edge off and recharge your batteries quite effectively? Ooh and you don’t need me to tell you that your hand-held telecommunications device and the pc/laptop/tablet/ipad you are reading this from has an OFF-button, do you?

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